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What I Mean When I Say I’m Sex-Positive

  • I think freedom of sexuality is something that we all need and very few of us have
  • I think sexual pleasure is a legitimate thing to want and ethically pursue
  • I do not judge people for the (consensual) sex that they have or want
  • I will not tolerate slut-shaming
  • I will not tolerate hatred of people based on gender or orientation (including asexual)
  • I will not tolerate hatred of sex workers
  • I believe comprehensive, honest, non-judgmental sex education is necessary for public health and happiness
  • I think understanding of sexual consent—what it is, why it matters—is sorely lacking in society and crucially important
  • I reject preconceptions of what kind of sexuality a person should have, whether these preconceptions are based on gender, age, culture, disability, survivor status, or basically anything else
  • I value people’s individual freedom of choice in determining their sex lives (including the choices not to have sex)

What I Don’t Mean

  • Everyone should have sex
  • Everyone should have kinky, non-monogamous, exhibitionistic, pansexual sex
  • Accepting someone’s sexuality means you have to participate in it, watch them engage in it, or hear about it in detail
  • Nothing related to sex is ever hurtful for anyone
  • Feminism should be all about sex
  • Sex fixes everything

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Q:I know the physical strength thing isnt that important, but i just want to share something i noticed. This morning, while sitting in a coffee shop, all the mothers of young (2-5 or so) children were carrying their kids in one arm while still being able to do everything else they needed with their other arm. Just thought it was interesting that these examples of women's practical, useful strength often go unnoticed.

teaandtonic
Submission: Hey there, just a little gem that popped up on my Facebook today. It reminded me of this awful, slut-shaming show we have on UK TV called ‘snog, marry avoid’; I don’t know if you know of it? Where women are basically dragged in front of a camera, told their outfits look awful and whether the public would snog (kiss), marry, or avoid them, (they make it biased so they only interview asswipe drunken men who say they would avoid them) before being given a complete makeover and then re-interviewing the men, who all end up saying they’d marry them etc with their new makeover. Slut-shaming/objectifying at its worst - on national television! I’d recommend seeing it (it’s all over youtube) so you get the picture of how terrible it is. Can’t believe all the hate you’ve got from this blog by the way. I can’t believe how little hate I’ve got actually! And yeah sadly I know that show, ew. Have you all heard about that new one, I think it’s Dutch, where they get a woman to just stand naked in front of male judges who just openly critique her body? Wtf
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Submission: Hey there, just a little gem that popped up on my Facebook today. It reminded me of this awful, slut-shaming show we have on UK TV called ‘snog, marry avoid’; I don’t know if you know of it? Where women are basically dragged in front of a camera, told their outfits look awful and whether the public would snog (kiss), marry, or avoid them, (they make it biased so they only interview asswipe drunken men who say they would avoid them) before being given a complete makeover and then re-interviewing the men, who all end up saying they’d marry them etc with their new makeover. Slut-shaming/objectifying at its worst - on national television! I’d recommend seeing it (it’s all over youtube) so you get the picture of how terrible it is. Can’t believe all the hate you’ve got from this blog by the way.
I can’t believe how little hate I’ve got actually! And yeah sadly I know that show, ew. Have you all heard about that new one, I think it’s Dutch, where they get a woman to just stand naked in front of male judges who just openly critique her body? Wtf

Q:hi there. this isn't about sexist facebook dudes, but i was wondering if i could have your opinion. i have to give a seminar on ethics, and i was tossing up between cultural appropriation and subliminal messaging. which do you think would be best?

Anonymous

Lol sorry but I have no idea! However since you asked Im gonna go with a) cultural appropriation. A lot of people could do with learning more about that

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I actually have Cure Passion’s figuart. FUN!

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accurate depiction of blogger’s reaction to most of these dudes’ posts.

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Q:The argument that women are "lesser" just because they're less physically strong is ridiculous, because there's more to life than being physically strong. Saying that women are "lesser" because they don't tend to have a typically masculine trait is prioritising typically male traits over typically female ones, just because they're typically male. Not being masculine doesn't make someone "lesser" than someone who is, it makes them different.

thewinterbird

Yep. Also strength and size varies across the population and isn’t strictly determined by gender anyway.

But yeah. We need to break down why the idea that having a greater capacity to enact physical violence on others is desirable.

Q:Re physical strength: women have been farming, tending livestock, hunting, killing and cleaning game, making and carrying babies, building houses and pretty much doing RIDICULOUS levels of physical work (and still do!), and yet that's not physically capable, but winning an arm wrestling contest is? And besides, touting physical strength as The One in the age of cars, power tools and bulldozers may be JUST A BIT ridiculous. I mean, Tesla, Diesel and Carnot weren't exactly muscley hunks.

glitterteal

Q:Hello :) I have a problem and I don't really know where to go with it so I thought maybe you or your followers could help me. My problem is this: I find it very difficult to call people out on their bigotry (in real life situations). This is partly due to my social anxiety, but I'm also very bad at phrasing my thoughts in a coherent way and coming up with compelling arguments, especially when I'm properly angry. It really annoys me because calling people out is so important. Any ideas? Thanks!

allesisleuk

Well, I am terribly non confrontational in real life. And I often don’t get angry til way after the thing has actually happened.

But what I’ve found useful is - don’t even explain in the moment. I just say ‘I’m going to need you to never use that word around me again’ or ‘if you wanna hang out again please never play a video with content like that’ or whatever. At the time if they push it I just say ‘I can explain later if you like but right now just decide whether you’d rather say things like that or see me again’. People generally don’t want to lose a friend or whatever, and then come to you later really receptive to an explanation and discussion for which you can collect your thoughts, or even send them things to read. You can say it like ‘hey since you’re my friend would you do me this favour of not doing x’. When you talk, make it clear you don’t blame them or think they’re terrible, it’s just something they didn’t know but now they do. (like unless they’re awful people then just get away from them!)

It also helps because it’s not some abstract thing (particularly if what they said wasnt directed at a group you’re in), it’s like ‘your action A will have the direct consequence B and it will take effect right now unless you stop’, not ‘let’s have a heated argument about social justice issues that don’t affect you and you don’t know about then storm out of the pub separately’.

If they’re people I’m never going to see again, I’ve found excusing myself and say something like ‘goodnight, I’m afraid I cannot stay and be part of a conversation like this’ is effective. It’s super embarrassing for people. I’ve actually had people find me through friends of friends of friends to offer an apology in cases like that.

Does anyone else have suggestions? I don’t have personal experience with social anxiety so I’m not sure if these would be helpful for you!

Q:Hey, I was wondering if you had any tips to combat people who try to argue that women are lesser because they aren't as physically capable as men. No matter what I say, such as, "we're built different, but not lesser." They point at me and say, "well take yourself as an example!" I'm very thin and short, and honestly I couldn't win in a fight against most people. Suggestions?

Anonymous

Firstly, the division between men and women is not as clear cut as we are taught to believe. Physically and socially it is all over the place, and we get trained as much as possible into two boxes (F/M) but in reality theres huge diversity. It’s definitely not a case of just man/woman or all men’s size > all women’s size. If everyone else was encouraged and supported in acquiring physical strength and power as men, things wouldn’t be so skewed (See: women’s bodies policed when they look ‘too’ muscly, violence against trans women if their bodies aren’t deemed slim and ‘feminine’ enough to pass, lack of interest/funding in women’s sports, women doing cardio to be slim while men do weightlifting, etc). Being bigger and stronger is not just natural it is often acquired and what gender you are will impact how society enables/blocks you gaining strength.

Secondly, the physical side is only part of it. Fear, intimidation, and terrorising people is a big part of violence. If everyone had always been taught to fear very thin and short people you’d be past halfway to winning all fights. I wouldnt even *try* to fight a guy because I’ve been taught since forever he’d beat me and possibly kill me. Maybe I’d hold my own. But he automatically wins because I’ve been programmed to not even fight back.
Third, sheer strength doesn’t always win fights. If you’ve ever taken self defence or boxing etc classes you’ll learn there are methods for all body types, and with the right training being smaller can also be an advantage. We just don’t really teach anything except in ways that suit men, and what society perceives all men’s bodies to be. Really there are skills to match all body types, but because we privilege one type of body for men that gets held as ‘best’ or ‘default’.
I hope that helps, it’s kind of a ramble, does anyone else have anything to add?

melmelmak:

I am really disgusted by comments like these. I thought the kitchen joke would be worn out already especially if the person who said it works and is an adult. People like Tyler James Mclendon don’t make it any better either.

Also shame on Jane who propagates this hideous stereotype. 

The world should be equal. But it’s because of people like this that Gender equality isn’t as efficient.

It’s the 21st century. Grow the fuck up. 

Source.

Erik Matthew Zukauskas: https://www.facebook.com/erik.zukauskas

Tyler James McLendon: https://www.facebook.com/tyler.mclendon?fref=ts